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Most people have at least one horror story about online dating. It's a rite of passage that single people love to hate. On top of the classic awkward Hinge date anecdotes and screenshots of a corny bio seeping with secondhand embarrassment, gay singles deal with all sorts of alienating interactions. Baseless questioning of sexual history, harassment, and fetishization — most of it coming from cis straight people who shouldn't have popped up in your feed in the first place — don't exactly give one butterflies.
Still, dating apps have become crucial means of introduction for gay folks looking to settle down. A Stanford study and Pew Research survey found that meeting online has become the most popular way for U. But the Pew survey also dredged up those ugly experiences with harassment. This could be where options that bar heterosexual users, like HER and Grindr, come in. Their perfectly-tailored environments are so well-known in the gay community that they're essentially in a league of their own.
That's not to say that they're in the queer dating app market alone. Apps like Zoe, Taimi, and Scruff exist. But their plateauing popularity can be attributed to similar complaints: too many scam profiles and too few legitimate users ones within a reasonable distance to plan a date, anyway. Chappy was a promising app for gay men that shut down just as it was gaining serious traction. And at the end of the day, "everyone" apps are simply where masses of queer users are.
Keeping Tinder on the back burner isn't just a straight people thing, especially for those who live in less-populated areas where Grindr and HER have slim pickings. Plus, some mainstream apps do deserve credit for the steps they've taken to create a more inclusive atmosphere. Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge now offer lots of sexual orientation and gender identity options.
OkCupid gets kudos for making that change years ago, as well as making social justice a core part of compatibility scoring — which kind of self-curates the type of people on the app. Here are the best dating apps and sites that'll maximize your opportunities while minimizing your human contact. For the best dating apps specifically for lesbians, go here. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are technically for all orientations, but they'll be damned if they don't sneak some male profiles into your feed even if you've specified the opposite.
Given the existence of Grindr and Scruff, the need for an online dating arena specifically for queer women was clear — thus, HER. As the user base of over four million grows, HER could widen your dating pool beyond the queer women you already know. In , HER revamped its profiles to let users get more creative in like gender, sexuality, pronouns, diet preferences like veganism , and star s, as well as a "What does this mean? The traditional text bio is where you can describe what kind of relationship you're seeking or flex your wit, though people are much more selective with words here than most on Tinder.
ing niche groups like "newly out" or "travelers" can also connect you with people using the app for similar reasons. Aside from coupling up, a lot of HER regulars are looking to make friends or scope out the queer community in a new town. Switching over to the community feed opens the door to virtual hangouts with self-curated groups for queer women of color or interests like the new lesbian films that mainstream Twitter will probably ignore. You know this name: Grindr brands itself as the world's largest dating app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people, but it's particularly the ideal gay paradise for men who are tired of Tinder and looking for experienced partners.
It's also a place for bisexual men to experiment with a bigger user base. With a dearth of functional trans-specific dating apps on the market, it's no wonder the app attracts a sizable segment of this population. Instead of swiping to match, you'll get a collage of people who are close location-wise. It'll be quite obvious that there are a ton of men out there waiting to talk.
Grindr lacks the boundaries other apps provide — most users just looking to hook up will let you know that they're not in it for small talk. That warning may come in the form of a dick pic. The app has a history of not being so welcoming to bisexual users, and it isn't exactly known for harmonious conservations about race , either. That's not to say it's not for relationships — a lot of men meet their forever person on Grindr — but on the surface, it's a tool for quick, casual encounters.
FWIW, men in small towns with a meager queer population are much more likely to find a connection here than on Tinder or OkCupid. Grindr goes past being a hookup app in another way. OkCupid's slogan is "Dating deserves better," and they're damn right — especially for the gays and the theys. Though it's open to gay and straight people, the veteran dating site has shed the heteronormativity that still somewhat plagues eharmony and Match.
It's hip and well-informed, while maintaining a more serious atmosphere than Tinder. Time and time again, OkCupid is the blueprint for inclusivity in online dating. In , OKC rolled out 22 gender and 13 orientation choices — years before such changes became a priority for competing sites. As of summer , all users can choose their pronouns. The dedication to social justice is also clear with the introduction of profile badges for voters and Black Lives Matter supporters. OkCupid's rede was deeper than hiring a clearly- millennial graphic deer. The brains behind the overhaul understand that, for young, left-leaning singles, a partner's politics are more serious than "If we agree, that's great.
If we don't, that's fine, too. Connections on the app are strengthened by an algorithm that picks matches based on how similarly both parties answered questions during -up yes, there are questions about communication and sappy relationship things as well as political views.
A compatibility score plus details on where you disagreed are helpful padding when it comes to evaluating what differences are make-or-breaks. Of the 50 million people who use Tinder monthly, not all are straight dudes holding fish. Queer and trans folks head to Tinder because its dating pool is colossal. You have to admit, they have a point. Tinder pioneered the now-ubiquitous swiping function, revolutionizing the world of online dating and boasting 1.
You're probably going to see someone you work with on the app. However, if you've exhausted your chances with all of the queer people you know in real life, this is probably where you can find the highest of gay locals — especially in smaller towns. An app that targets the straights like Tinder does is bound to be followed by a cloud of heteronormativity. Marking that you only want to see men or only want to see women doesn't guarantee that a straight person won't slip through the cracks of your feed.
It's also a breeding ground for unicorn hunters, as well as male trolls who submit false complaint reports about transwomen on the app. Tinder also has a history of frivolously banning users who change their gender identity or supporting Black Lives Matter. Despite all of this, Tinder has made notable efforts to be more inclusive by partnering with GLAAD to personalize swiping i.
Over 40 gender options are available, beating Match under the same parent company which offers a grand total of Young people looking to at least go on a few dates with the same person instead of beelining for a friends with benefits situation was a blind spot for swiping apps — until Hinge blew up. The premise and user base might be in the Tinder and Bumble realm, but these three aren't interchangeable. Hinge's unique profile criteria and algorithm based on that criteria set matches up for real-life potential. Despite the fact that we're actively seeking out new dating apps and feel a rush every time a cute contender swipes right back, no one looking for something serious wants to be on these.
That idea fueled Hinge's rebrand to "the dating app deed to be deleted. Instead of cheesy questionnaires and spam s about the 50 winks you've received, Hinge uses ice breakers to find you up to 10 matches per day. Instead of swiping, connections are made by liking or commenting on another person's answers. Prompts range from "Two truths and a lie" to "Does hiking on a Sunday morning seem viable to you too? Paying for Hinge Preferred also lets you filter by political views. Unlike Tinder and Bumble, which seem to have a broken gaydar, Hinge sees far less reports of men popping up in your feed uninvited.
Hinge users also experience more genuine queer people and less unicorn hunting on the app compared to the other big players. We love an app that cuts the bullshit. In this case, the bullshit includes cisgender straight men. Lex short for Lexicon, formerly known as Personals is a genuinely cool social app for queer, trans, gender non-conforming, two spirit, and non-binary people.
The specific demographic positions Lex to offer a more peaceful experience than "everyone" apps like Tinder and Bumble, but the way it goes about introducing users as lovers or friends is another level of niche. A nod to '80s and '90s erotica magazines, Lex users meet by posting personal about what or who they're looking for, relationship-wise. The , called personals, are a chance for folks to showcase their wit and be straightforward as hell.
Personals can get pretty horny, and everything rests on language — because photos aren't allowed. Users can link an Instagram if they want, but the pressure of posting the perfect selfie to sucker someone in is gone. The traditional swiping process? Lex doesn't know her. Gay Reddit users who miss Craigslist will enjoy the "find an ad you like and appeal to said ad" approach.
The awkward dynamic of testing the waters with a shy hottie you just matched with gets exhausting, and the very specific backstory that Lex users supply before a word is exchanged could make for a smoother opening conversation. NUiT crosses two major complaints off the list: It nixes the need for the notorious "What time were you born?
Remember when Bumble announced it would let users filter matches by their zodiac ? NUiT is the better version of that. The creators at NUiT know that, for many, birth charts can be a wildly helpful tool in maneuvering the dating world by predicting how well you'd mesh with someone in aspects like argument stye or the importance of sex. NUiT also s for the nuances in different combinations of placements outside of sun s.
It encourages daters to use astrological compatibility as insight to understand why a match might act the way they do, but does so while avoiding overly-simplistic "What fried food you are based on your zodiac " energy. People who study astrology will be the first to tell you that astrology is a cosmic guide to behaviors, but it isn't tell-all as to how good of a partner or friend someone will be.
Creators also recognized another thing that turns queer users off to heteronormative dating apps: They don't want to see or be seen by straight people. Sure, Tinder and OkCupid have their share of well-meaning allies — but the lack of shared experience as a queer person can make or break a relationship's dynamic. Such a feature has been a long time coming as dating apps increase focus on inclusivity, and people on Twitter are pretty psyched about it.
Social Good. Credit: her. Credit: Grindr. Credit: okcupid. Credit: tinder. The Good Easy and instantaneous Extra fun during traveling Massive user base regardless of where you are People looking for hookups will probably say so in their bio The Bad History of banning trans people for no reason Might still get straight people in your feed No actual matchmaking algorithm Terrible bios and pickup lines everywhere The Bottom Line The OG swiping app where you'll find everyone you know, a ton who you don't know, and a date in under 10 minutes.
Credit: hinge. Hinge More Serious Candidates Than Tinder The go-to app for millennials works to be a quality space for gay users and is a bit more thoughtful than swiping apps. The Good Unique profile criteria like political affiliation and stance on marijuana Diverse user base that's growing exponentially Lots of gender options Actually uses an algorithm The Bad Have to pay for unlimited matches Still not great in small towns Some filters like height aren't free anymore The Bottom Line Young people's new favorite app puts a hopeful, relationship-focused twist on instant gratification.
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