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Prostasia Foundation. I love rainbows, and unicorns, and my kitty cats, and my stuffies, and arts and crafts, and reading stories and watching cartoons. But whatever form ageplay takes, the BDSM community considers it to be a kink, which means that it is for adults only. This distinguishes ageplay from age regression, which is rooted in therapeutic methods for working through past trauma. Just like other sexual practices, regardless of how ready a minor may feel, it is wrong for an adult to ageplay with them.
It only takes one accusation of some sort of sexual impropriety with a minor for an entire convention, event, or organization to get shut down. I am a person who has experienced both child abuse and sexual assault, but I was not sexually assaulted as a minor. So there is no sexual trauma tied to my littlespace and, I refuse to accept that my sexuality has to be either defined by or limited by what happened to me in the past.
However, as with much of the other kinks I engage in, if I look back, I can clearly see behaviors going back to early childhood that hinted at my future expressions of sexuality and identity. Even as young child, I often enjoyed playing make believe as an even younger child or baby, along with other make believe roles such as mermaid or princess. I refuse to accept that my sexuality has to be either defined by or limited by what happened to me in the past. Now that I am an adult, the main reason I ageplay, frankly, is because it feels good. Slipping into my littlespace is like, taking your bra off and finally pouring that glass of wine at the end of the a long day.
You finally get to put on sweatpants, binge some bad television, and just be yourself. Littlespace is like sweatpants and wine for my brain and I find that my body typically follows. The more space I am allowed to be little, the more naturally it fits me. I am little, I am too little for all the responsibilities and worries of grown up life. I also sometimes find it extremely challenging to let walls down with partners.
In my littlespace, I am able to access and share a more open and vulnerable part of myself. The ability to negotiate beforehand exactly what both partners do or do not want, gives one an ability to move more freely inside the parameters of a relationship because they are more clearly set. When I am little and my partner knows that is where my hepace is, I know I can trust him to take care of me.
See, I may play as a younger version of myself and my Daddy may enjoy playing with me and caring for me when I am in a more vulnerable or a different kind of playful space than my adult self, but I assure you, I am all stocked up on my own agency, and am older than I generally like to admit. This makes a difference—a big one.
What about my partners? Having said that, statistically there must surely be at least some Bigs who are also sexually attracted to real minors, and for those people ageplay may be a safe, legal outlet for those feelings. I am not being abused, and my partners are not abusers. We ageplay in a fictional, safe, consensual fantasy world. We ageplay in a fictional, safe, consensual fantasy world in which they can exercise their nurturing, parental instincts with a sexual partner, and I can enjoy feeling carefree and loved. For some people, their sexual fantasies run a little darker than this, and do extend to fantasies of abuse.
Those who abuse children in real life, by having sex with them or by distributing images of such abuse, must be punished to the full extent of the law. If ageplay is stigmatized as an inherently abusive activity due to its association with pedophilia, then this stigma damages me and my partners equally.
There are more ethical age players than not. There are exceptions to every single rule on earth. Very few minors with an interest in kink are comfortable expressing that to parents and teachers, and even friends. We still, as a society, so heavily stigmatize sex that there is no real impetus for a minor to go to one of the established authority figures in their life for general sex questions, let alone anything they know to be outside the mainstream.
So, they go online and seek out others. If you are lucky, your child finds someone like me who gives them educational resources that will help them explore safely on their own until they are old enough to the community. But for the most part, they are likely to simply be turned away. Whatever reason people have to engage in ageplay, for me and others this is an important part of our sexual expression. Nobody is harmed by it, and we should not be pathologized or stigmatized for our sexuality.
So as hard as it may be for outsiders to understand the attraction of this lifestyle, we need to stop treating ageplayers in the same way as you would treat child molesters. This means accepting it as a valid form of adult consensual sexual expression, and allowing real minors who have questions about it to have those questions answered without shame… but also with a firm resolve that this kink is not for them. I writed for you a big, long, boring, grown-uppy, post that talks all about grown ups and grown up things and the silly things grown ups do.
You might even like doing some of it. Now I consider myself a very open minded person. I work in the sex industry and support many types of kinks however as someone who was sexually molested as I child I can tell you first hand that this kind of porn when it pops up on my ManyVids feed is extremely triggering. I think it encourages pedophilia and any man who wants to jerk his dick to a fantasy of a little girl being sexual for him deserves to have his dick chopped off.
Seek help and stop perpetuating this kind of abuse. Thank you for sharing how you feel about this kind of material, which we agree can be triggering. But it can also be a way for some victims to work through their trauma, or simply to express their sexuality. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.
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